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\"Thangam,
Thangam, Vijayasundaram, and their three children.<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Vijayasundaram, at 42 years old, like many of his peers, used to drink during and after his work on a Sri Lankan tea estate. He would spend his earnings on alcohol, without budgeting for other needs or spending time at home with his family. However, all of that changed after Vijayasundaram participated in the MenCare fathers\u2019 groups carried out by World Vision Lanka\u2019s Nuwara Eliya Area Development Program (ADP)<\/a>.<\/p>\n

As Vijayasundaram\u2019s wife, Thangam, recalls, \u201cHe used to drink every day and we used to fight [with] each other. He didn\u2019t care about the family or the children.\u201d Thangam, who also works on the tea estate, is referring to the couple\u2019s three children: 13-year-old Thushanthan, 9-year-old Sathurthika, and 1-year-old Roshan. She continues, \u201cAfter participating in the MenCare program conducted by World Vision, he started to change his attitudes gradually. [Before] we had problems and arguments, but after the MenCare program, that has all stopped.<\/p>\n

\u201cHe used to go out after work and come home late, but now he stays at home after work. I used to do the household work alone, but now he supports me in cooking and other household chores. When I am late [coming home] from [work in] the field, he prepares meals and washes the dishes and clothes. He takes care of the children. He stopped drinking alcohol and started saving Rs. 300 per child per month,\u201d Thangam continues.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhen I come home from the field, sometimes he says, \u2018You look tired, let me make a cup of tea for you.\u2019 And he makes me a cup of tea. He used to disturb the children when they were studying, but now he asks me to help the children in their studies while he does other household chores,\u201d she adds.<\/p>\n

\u201cWe also used to fight at night, but not now. Now, we all sit together and have our dinner and talk. There was a belief that we should not talk when having meals. But we learned in the MenCare program that we should talk and listen to our children and to their ideas,\u201d Thangam concludes.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Vijayasundaram, aos 42 anos, como muitos de seus colegas, costumava beber durante e depois de seu trabalho em uma planta\u00e7\u00e3o de ch\u00e1 no Sri Lanka. Ele gastava seus ganhos em \u00e1lcool, sem fazer or\u00e7amento para outras necessidades ou passar tempo em casa com sua fam\u00edlia. 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